I wanted to start this post with a couple of questions. What is
the purpose of parenting? Is there more than one purpose? Who is affected by
parenting? I asked my sister this question because she has two kids and she
said one of the purposes of parenting is to help them prepare for their future.
In my opinion, one of the purposes of parenting is to help children understand
how to learn and grow. I believe that there are many other purposes to
parenting as well. Parenting is more than just teaching your children. It is
showing unconditional love and trying your best to establish a healthy
relationship with them. What are some of your thoughts? I think everyone of us
is affected by parenting, no matter if you’re in the family or not, whether you
are the parent or not. Everyone is affected because parenting is such a big
part of our lives that we ourselves can posses those parenting values and
everything else that comes with parenting. We take with us the things we learn
from our parents throughout our lives.
I also wanted to share the effects
of parenting through the child’s mistaken approach, the child’s need, and the
parental approach. First, the child can show under attention seeking,
rebellion, control of others, and even revenge. The child’s need includes;
contact belonging, challenge, power, protection, and withdrawal. The parental
approach includes; offering contact freely, teaching to contribution, chores,
consequences, assertiveness, and forgiveness. I loved learning about this in
class because it helped me be aware of these things as I plan on approaching
parenting in the future.
I wanted to share a quote from
President Thomas S. Monson. He said, "To you who are parents, I say, show
love to your children. You know you love them, but make certain they know it as
well. They are so precious. Let them know. Call upon Heavenly Father for help
as you care for their needs each day as you deal with challenges which
inevitably come with parenthood. You need more than your own wisdom in rearing
them." Even though I don’t have kids, I love this quote because it is the
duty as parents to love and care for their children. With that being said, how can we determine the best ways in which to
approach parenting challenges and opportunities? For me personally, I am a religious
person and from what I believe, it is important that we approach parenting
challenges and opportunities with the gospel of Jesus Christ. I think we should
strive to approach these things as the Savior would. When I become a parent, I
want to be able to share that Christ-like love to my children and show them
that they can always come to me for anything. I want my children to feel that
they can be open with me. This is important to me because I know that they can
learn so much from themselves, from me, and from what they are going through at
the moment.
Growing up,
I was blessed with wonderful parents. They taught me so many things that has
always stuck with me. I owe my parents everything because they really knew what
was best for me. From their parenting styles, I’ve learned that it is important
to share unconditional love towards anyone you come in contact with and always
strive to be a good example. There are many other things that I’ve learned from
them growing up and there are still things that I continue to learn from them.
I will always be grateful for that.